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Ways to Foster Intimacy with Your Child
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If we define #intimacy in words, it is basically a bond which keeps the families together #emotionally. Relationships survive only when there is intimacy between the people having those relationships. Nevertheless, it is difficult to exactly define intimacy. However, we feel this emotion strongly when it appears in our hearts. In simple words, there is intimacy when we feel connected to someone.
When it comes to building intimacy with your kid, it is about responding to your child in time when he/she needs you to listen and acknowledge. If we respond positively, children develop good emotions for them in their hearts for us. This is the way intimacy with children works. However, when they reach out to us and explain their problem, our failure to respond properly develops bad feelings about us in their hearts. They keep this feeling in their hearts hidden, and it is definitely not good for the relationship. Sometimes, children deliberately complain about things only to test us.
So, it’s worth mentioning here how to develop good relationship with our kids.
Notice the child’s bids
It’s the child bid when he reaches out to you to tell you what happened in school while you are busy in your work. Now, it’s the matter of self-disciplining to answer the child’s call while turning away from the work you are doing. Most of us find it very difficult to put the work on pause and respond to the child’s bid. So, what we commonly do is that we tell the children to wait until the specific part of work is done. When we are free from that part, we ask the kid about what happened in school. That’s out bid now. By that time, the child has usually lost the urge to share that information. Hence, we need to practice putting work on pause immediately to answer the child’s bid.
The comments by your child can be silly and, even, intimidating. But your reaction to those comments needs to be characterized with empathy. Sometimes, your child may get into argument with you. Remember, this is the very moment which tell whether you are a peaceful parent or not. If you respond with empathy and answer the kid with compassion, your child will more likely make you the role model. And the fact about role models is that we love our role models and we try to remain close to them.
Step back if you didn’t get appropriate response
Initiating #discussion with your kids is the most important thing #parents need to work on. Sometimes, children do not want to respond to our calls. In reaction to their unresponsive behavior, we sometimes feel offended and start insisting. This is wrong. When they do not respond, your very next move is to step back and think about the ways to initiate the discussion properly.
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