As a parent, if you have ever done any parenting style, strategy or solution research at all, you will have seen Supernanny Jo Frost all over the internet, including YouTube. While I was raising my children Supernanny Jo Frost was my hero and she still is today! What if her child rearing philosophy could be enhanced with a new attitude, new state of the art ideas, and all positive parenting solutions that would create even better outcomes with your child or teenager?
In April 2009, Supernanny Jo Frost was working with the DeMello family in and she showed the mom how to stand her ground to show the child who is in charge of the household! That is excellent, and it is essential as a role model’s demonstration, for the many parents out there who believe their sole job as parents is to keep their children happy. This is a huge error!
In every episode we, as parents, learn how to do a proper time-out, how to take control as a parent with our voice and actions, and how to hold off anger and frustration with our children. Is there a way to empower our children to greater self-image, self-discipline and confidence versus disempowering them with punishment? The answer is absolutely yes! There is a way to empower your child every day and still have your child display the good, quiet and cooperative behavior you seek.
Time-outs, denial of privileges, and yelling are all direct punishment in your children’s eyes. Old fashioned, traditional punishment methods and techniques will work with very small children and they will work temporarily, at best, but eventually these methods and techniques will steal the child’s innocence and their self-confidence. I asked my husband Thomas to watch the YouTube video and tell me how Supernanny could create even greater success.
Here are 3 Parenting Style Secrets from Thomas’ helpful hints that he gave me that enhance Supernanny’s outdated punishment techniques.
1. Ask your child questions instead of dictating to them.
If your child is running and yelling in the house and playing wildly with their brothers and sisters, 9o percent of the time, they are yelled at, threatened, and then put in their corner or bedroom a time-out. This tells the child that running and yelling are incorrect behaviors, and we all know that’s know it’s not actually true. It’s healthy for them to exercise and vocalize with their loud voice. Where is the best place for them to practice using their play time and their loud voices?
The next time your child is running around the house, screaming and horseplaying with his sibling, you just capture their attention and ask, “Little Timmy, where is the best place for loud voice and horseplay? Is it inside the house, in the library, or outside in the back yard?” Little Timmy will know the answer and immediately go outside to yell and scream. This way, he is not on a naughty mat, embarrassed; he is encouraged, praised and loved for being who he is. A little boy who likes to yell, run and play.
2. Know the reward that is important to your child.
Know the reward of what is important to your child or teenager and you have fuel to motivate them into the action of learning life skills. In this clip Supernanny Jo Frost takes the family to a library. The parents are afraid that their misbehaving children will act up and they will feel embarrassed. Jo explains to take 5 minutes to cover the rules before entering the library. Thumbs up, Supernanny!!!
My husband calls this strategy of “to know the reward for your child” pre-framing. This is simply focusing on demonstrating positive energy to achieve exactly the same outcome of good self-discipline when you are at the library. You ask your child or teenager, “Little Timmy, what is the most important thing for you to experience today at our library?” Little Timmy will say something like “I’d like to get a book about cowboys, Mom!” “Excellent, Timmy, I would really love for you to get some books about cowboys! What kind of behavior is correct to use the entire time while we are in the library?” Little Timmy will always answer, “Inside behavior, Mom. Quiet voice and my slow walk.” Your child is very wise and very intelligent. Make it his choice to behave. When it’s his choice, he’ll behave in order to receive his reward, his fuel, the book about cowboys from the library.
3. Parents make decisions and children make choices.
Children do not have the ability to make decisions because they cannot think abstractly yet. You cannot ask your child, “What do you want for supper?” if you want them to eat nutritious food. They will always default to McDonalds, Pizza or some other junk food. They will, however, always pick something good to eat if you make the decisions first and then offer your child their three choices.
For example, you may want little Timmy to eat vegetables at dinner. Supernanny makes the suggestion that they just take little bites while you keep encouraging them to give it a try. Doing this strategy is still your decision, and you are still dictating what is essential to you, not to them, that you want them to consume a vegetable. Therefore, instead, try this. You make a parent-approved decision about what is important to you, the parent. Then you ask them, “When we have dinner tonight, would you like to have peas, corn or carrots?” Your child will answer, “Hmm, how about carrots?” Yes! He just asked for carrots. I promise you that little Timmy will eat all of the vegetables on his plate today!
Thomas Liotta brings over 15,000 hours of in-the-trenches training with 2,000+ children. He saw a 100% success rate with every child in self-control, responsibility and self-discipline. You can too. Get your FREE gift
! The first 2 chapters of our new positive parenting book, A Simple Way to Guide Children and Teenagers to Happiness, Success and Gratitude.
In this video, we are going to discuss 4 types of parenting styles and their effect on children. To know more visit: http://www.dudestodads.com/
In psychology today, recognized 4 different major parenting styles:
The quality of parenting can be more essential than the quantity of time spent with the child. For instance, a parent can spend an entire afternoon with his or her child, yet the parent may be engaging in a different activity and not demonstrating enough interest towards the child. Parenting styles are the representation of how parents respond and demand to their children.
Most studies, mainly in Anglophone countries, have shown that children with authoritative parents have the best outcomes in different areas.The case might be different, however, for Asian populations, where the authoritarian style was found as good as the authoritative one. On the other hand, some studies have found a superiority of the indulgent style in Spain, Portugal or Brazil, but the methodology of these studies has been contested. Actually, a recent study has shown that in Spain, using the same questionnaire that in other countries, the authoritative style continues to be the best one for children.
Don’t forget to subscribe our channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSrVu4egvMdSX3jZ4_tP-6g
Follow us on social media:
Google plus: https://plus.google.com/+Dudestodads
Video Rating: / 5