Every good parent would choose to educate their child and teenagers well. Some parents register their children in public school, where the government chooses what to teach your child or teenager, while some choose to school their own children at home. Whatever is right for you, it is imperative to ensure your child or teenager gets educated. What is the number one reason we send our children to school? What is the number one reason it is important for you to send your child or teenager to school?
As an adult, I believe, we send our children to school so they can have the best chance to be happy in life: We want the best for them; we want them to be happy; we want them to have real opportunities. The majority of approaches that parents are taking today to, basically, force their child or teenager go to school are hurtful threats, physical punishment, and gut wrenching guilt parenting solutions that are actually setting the teenager up for failure now and in their future.
In wanting what is best for our children we tend to say things like “What’s wrong with school?” or “Don’t you want a good education?” It is also easy for good moms and dads to unintentionally demean the tween by ignoring what is important to them. The child says, “I hate school!” And the parent comes back with, “I don’t care what you want!” The power struggle will continue until the child is a teenager, and then the teenager gets deemed with a poor attitude.
If you are a good parent using these outdated punishment techniques, you are creating everything your child is producing! From one adult to another, it’s essential to read on to find out what 3 positive parenting styles Thomas Liotta has to share on guiding your child to go to school in a way that empowers them.
3 Positive Parenting Skills to Help Guide Your Teenager to Go to School
1. Your child says, “I don’t want to go to school.” Understand that your child speaks a different language than you do. They do not have the ability to think abstractly until after the age of 13. “I’m not going to school” can mean a number of things. A good parent will learn to understand the language their teenager speaks and will communicate in a way that the teenager will understand.
2. Help guide your child to choose to go to school by asking them questions. When your child is goofing off instead of getting ready for school, instead of yelling to be heard, “You have to go to school” ask the teenager a question, “Little Timmy, what should we be doing right now?” He will answer, “Getting ready for school.”
3. Then you can praise him/her, “Ah, look how smart you are. What do we have to do to get ready?” “We have to brush our teeth, eat our breakfast and get our clothes on.” “Perfect! Little Timmy, you always know the right answers. You are so smart, look at you! When you get that done in the next 5 minutes, we will have time to look up that information you were looking for before we go.” Anything that the tween says is important to them should be important to you. Instead of ignoring what is important for your child, always validate and respons, “Yes, I want you to do that, have that or be that, too. You definitely can do that after you go to school!”
There is always a way to say yes, and to guide your child or teenager to the outcome you seek. By understanding the different languages, empowering your child with the correct questions (not abstract ones) and guiding them with love, you will put an end to the parent child power struggle forever!
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